In case you don’t know about Beautifulpeople.com, this is a site that is designed to be a singles site for “beautiful” people. The gimmick is that the members of the site rate other members, and if you’re not hot enough, you get thrown off it. I heard about this some years ago, when it was first going live, and then I thought nothing more of it. I mean, I’m not a physically attractive person, at least not under their “perfect” terms, so I figured it was a site for more narcisistic (or people who can spell the word) people than I am. Then I found out today that Beautifulpeople.com “claimed” a virus allowed 30,000 ugly people to get through onto the site, so they got rid of them. PC Magazine probably called it right in that this claim was really more of a publicity stunt than an actual occurrence. After all, no one knew that this virus was in place, so why would 30,000 suddenly show up and want to join a site that was so exclusive that they never would have gotten in before. I seriously doubt 30,000 people normally try to sign up daily and get rejected naturally without the virus.
But who cares about the virus? What I find more significant is that the site exists regardless. I can’t even imagine ever wanting to join a site that requires you to have to look hot in order to become a member. What’s funny about that is the shitload of studies that indicate that women are attracted to men for reasons other than the reasons men are attracted to women, and NOT A SINGLE REASON ever listed has anything to do with looks. In other words, women tend to be attracted to men because of intelligence, things they do, things they say, and other things that don’t get included in pictures. It’s why people kept saying that taking pictures of your private parts and sending them to women is NEVER an attractive thing to do, yet so many guys would love to be the recipient of women taking naked pictures of themselves and sending them forward. By the way, I’m not one of these guys, so this isn’t an attempt to get women to send me naked pictures of themselves (I’m more like women; I want to know what’s inside their minds, not under their clothes).
Is this a thing that younger people are now thinking is important, this whole look hot thing? I mean, I understand the desire to see someone who is attractive, and every television show seems to be about how guys are looking for “hot” women, but what is the selling point of a web site dating service that wants only hot people? Wouldn’t they be able to find partners for themselves without having to go through a site in the first place? If not, wouldn’t a vain site like that just provide them with the opportunities to meet really vain people who you wouldn’t want to spend fifteen minutes with in public (or in private) anyway?
I just don’t seem to understand it. Maybe that’s why I wouldn’t be welcome at their site.
But I suspect they’re not doing well, which would explain the really insidious attempt to get attention by creating an allegedly false stupid story about a virus that most likely didn’t happen. I mean, beautiful people don’t get viruses, right?
Like you I at first didn’t understand the appeal of beautifulpeople.com. Then I went on and used numerous pictures of very attractive women from other dating sites and posted them there and made fake profiles and got accepted with all. What I found out is amazing. For one, the main reason people go on beautifulpeople has nothing to do with looks but everything to do ego. They are stoking their own. The majority of the members are so insecure and unconfident about themselves it’s amazing. You have people from all walks of life and professions and many of them are what they say they are. One was a surgeon, who provided pictures of himself in the operating room – a very handsome man. But he was so insecure about his sexuality and so limited in his social skills that I found it hard to even have a normal conversation with him. Another guy, also very handsome, sent a lot of benign messages to me but after a while he started trying to pump me for information on what I thought about his looks as if that was more important than character. Even the one guy who I though was a halfway decent character started sending me messages indicating that he wanted me to talk dirty to him. Similiar incidents like this happened over and over and over again with other guys.
And forget about the women. The majority are so low class they’re slightly a step up from porn star material – and that’s only slightly. There are a lot more women with class on sites like zoosk and match than on beautifulpeople. At least they are real and down to earth. The majority of women on beautiful people, no matter their age, are embarrasingly crass. Seeing a 60 year old women who is trying to be something she is not – half naked in an attempt to be sexy is soooo not sexy. It’s funny and embarassing. Almost all the women, no matter their age, with the exception of maybe 2, had pictures in various states of undress. There was not one girl who had that healthy girl next door look. All were trying to be something they were not and the majority had professionally touched up pictures to boot. That goes for a lot of the men too. Overall, that’s how I would describe beautifulpeople. The biggest flaw of beautifulpeople however is that unless you live in an urban area you would be hard pressed to meet anyone in your area. But after what I have found out about the shallow superficial members, why would you want to?
Those are really interesting comments, and I thank you for sharing them.